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BDSM is a term created to encompass a group of erotic fantasies and practices freely agreed upon, which in some cases are considered as a way of life.

It is an acronym that combines the initial letters of the words Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and Masochism. It encompasses, therefore, a set of six erotic modalities related to each other and linked to what is called alternative sexualities.

Sometimes, in everyday speech, the expressions “sado” or “sadomasochism” are used to refer to BDSM, although both terms are misleading, partly because they are words created by psychiatry to define mental illnesses and partly because Practices covered by BDSM are varied and admit many different manifestations.

As an erotic practice, BDSM always relies on the free, full, informed and current consensus of the participants and is radically different from criminal sadism.

Concepts

BDSM is a term created in 1990 to cover a group of erotic practices and fantasies. It is an acronym formed with the combination of the initials of the following pairs of words: Bondage and Discipline; Domination and Submission; Sadism and Masochism.

Bondage and discipline

«Bondage» is a term referring to the subjection that certain links imply, which is established in certain relations of subordination. Historically, in previous centuries, it was a term used to refer to the restrictive bond that united masters and slaves, or feudal lords and vassals.

The term “bondage” is also usually associated with ties with ropes or other restriction elements, which are often used in BDSM, but linguistically the word “bondage” does not come from the English term bond, but from the term bind.

Erotic practices related to bondage then, are properly those that establish asymmetric power roles, such as master-submissive, master-maid, boss-employee, teacher-student, police-detainee, owner-pet, etc.

bondage

In practice this expression is also related to ties and restrictions for erotic purposes.

«Discipline» is a term that refers to erotic practices related to rules, punishments, training, behavior protocols and postures, depending on the circumstances, etc.

Historically it is closely related to the eroticization of the traditional English discipline of the Victorian era, applied widely on children in school and family life, including practices such as spanking (open hand blows on the tail), caning with rods), humiliation, etc.

Domination and submission

Domination and submission are complementary practices of exchange of power: one or more people dominate one or more people who submit. They are usually referred to together as D / s, with capital letter D and lowercase letter s, to denote the hierarchical nature of the relationship.

“Domination” is a term used to refer to erotic practices in which a person adopts a dominant role to act according to his will and his desire on another person or others who adopt a submissive role.

The person in the dominant role commands and disposes. It is always about a domination constantly subject to the consensus and limits established by the person who accepts to be dominated.

The BDSM rejects any practice of domination, however minimal, that does not have the real, full, informed and constantly updated consensus of the person who occupies the submissive role.

The full consensus in any erotic or sexual relationship, requires as a prerequisite that there is no real submission or obedience relationship between the people involved, including those culturally established, such as gender, labor, family or military relations.

When the dominant role is occupied by a woman and the submissive role of a male, the practice is usually called femdom or feminine domination.

The person who occupies the dominant role usually receives the nickname of Master, Mistress, Dom, Lord, Lady, Mistress, Master, Goddess, Queen, etc., always in capital letters.

domination and submission

«Submission» is a term used to refer to the erotic practices in which a person adopts a submissive role in which he remains under the will of another or other people who adopt a dominant role.

It is the complementary situation of domination, which is why we usually talk about D / s relations. The person in the submissive role obeys or allows action on his body. It is always a situation of voluntary submission and oriented to erotic enjoyment, strictly within the limits set by the person who adopts the submissive role, who can interrupt the situation at any time.

The person who occupies the submissive role usually receives the name of slave, slave, submissive, submissive, sub, etc, always in lowercase.

According to the personal preferences, the people who practice them D / S can permanently occupy the dominant role or the submissive role, or they can alternate the roles, in the same session, or in different sessions or with different people. In the latter case they are called a switch or versatile.

Sadism and masochism

Sadism

Is a term that in this context is used to refer to erotic practices in which a person gets pleasure causing pain, humiliation or discomfort to another person who accepts that situation.

It is always about voluntary practices based on trust that can not go beyond the limits established by the person receiving the pain, humiliation or discomfort, and that can be stopped at any time. The person who adopts the sadistic role takes care at all times of the situation of the person receiving the pain, humiliation or discomfort, in order to avoid any harm. It is an erotic practice that has no resemblance to criminal sadism.

Masochism

“Masochism” is a term that in this context is used to refer to erotic practices in which a person gets pleasure experiencing pain, humiliation or discomfort, usually at the hands of another person who accepts that situation. It is always about voluntary practices that can not go beyond the limits established by the person who receives pain, humiliation or discomfort, and who can be stopped at any time.

Although the roles of sadism and masochism are not necessarily complementary, because they are not presupposed, it is usual to link them as a pair, using the expression “sadomasochism” and the sign “S / M”.

sadism
Many activities framed in the BDSM have as a common element a situation of power transfer with erotic purpose, always voluntary, known in English with the expression Erotic Power Exchange (EPE or Erotic Power Exchange).

Some of the practices encompassed by the term, such as erotic humiliation, pain, submission and others, could not be understood apart from their involvement with a specific form of mutual pleasure, without which the aforementioned practices would be associated with unpleasant sensations.

During a session (the time in which this exchange of power is practiced) the participants agree on certain rules to guarantee that the practices are carried out in an environment of consensus and free will (known by the acronym SSC or sensible, safe and consensual).

It can be practiced in some clubs or bars, generally located in large cities, specializing in BDSM, although the most normal thing is to play mixing this practice with other more conventional sexual or erotic games in a couple environment.

Fetishism is not included in the erotic practices and tastes encompassed by the acronym BDSM.

However, it is very usual that many fetish practices are inserted naturally in BDSM practices, as happens with leather clothes (leather movement), certain sexual role-playing games, in which each part assumes one of the roles, such as those of teacher-student, doctor-patient, babysitter-baby (age play), pet training games and others, etc.

BDSM is also related to erotic practices or close cultures such as the Gothic subculture and vampirism.

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